How much should you spend on food? (15:17)
Better is a dish of vegetables where love is than a fattened ox and hatred with it.
It’s easy to overspend on food: Sometimes, fancy foods are dangerous distractions or even a source of foolish pride.
Having less with friends is better than more with troublesome folks. Do we spend too much time dining in luxury, or too little time gobbling fast food, when we should be spending time with friends and family? When togetherness suffers, this proverb suggests we rethink the luxury and convenience.
The social, interpersonal environment is more important than the meal. The Living Bible puts it this way: “It is better to eat soup with someone you love than steak with someone you hate.”
Even Great Food Has its Limits
This text, like the preceding Proverbs 15:16, recommends limits to growth. “Enough” becomes “too much,” when the society turns vain, competitive, or mechanical. We can’t specify percentage of our income to spend on food or fine dining—fifteen, twenty, or thirty percent of our income on food? Every family is different in size, the kids’ age, and dietary needs. The text does not say how much, but it alerts us to the real issue with dinner. It warns us to change our focus from the food to the company we’re with. These days, that might also mean stressing home-meals instead of fast foods.
Ambiance: The Secret Spice
The proverb is not a commentary on the benefits of vegetarianism. Admittedly, for our budget, vegetables are cheaper than meat, but this text deals with the community, not the cost. In ancient times, oxen were beasts of burden, and their meat, usually tough. But the meat of a fattened ox would be tastier and juicer. Yet it costs something to fatten an ox, and the enhanced taste of well-marbled beef may be lost in unpleasant company.
Restaurants go to great lengths to create a pleasant eating atmosphere. The atmosphere during a meal is often more important than the food itself. Our attitudes affect our ability to enjoy the food (and our digestion). A meal eaten in a relaxed, comfortable manner “schmecks!” A pleasant atmosphere during a meal is like a cook’s secret spice. Love makes food better! But how can we create an atmosphere of love? Isn’t this is beyond the scope of financial advice… or is it?
Fancy Foods Don’t Fix Foes
The enjoyment of a meal depends on how the meal is served and with whom we eat. So 17th century preacher Matthew Henry’s Commentary includes a beautifully rhyming Latin verse, roughly translated: “The most sumptuous entertainment, presented with a sullen brow, would offend me; while the plainest repast, presented kindly, would delight me.”
Most of us have at one time or another, experienced “important” banquets that were strained and distracted because of unresolved tensions among the guests or with the host. In contrast, an atmosphere of love and acceptance, enhances every dish. So every meal should be a “family meal.”
We all know someone who is so disdainful or particular that sharing a meal with them becomes intolerable. Dining is meant to be a sign of honour and solidarity—but not always. If a meal becomes an exercise in polite toleration, rather than a feast of love, the outlay cannot compensate for the discomfort of the guests, however great the expense. Sometimes, the added expense of the effort even magnifies the pride and bitterness. The extra spent on delicacies turns them bitter in the host’s mouth, and then in everyone’s mouth. There is real financial waste in uncomfortable dinners.
Better Versus More
The main message here is that “more” is not always a good thing. More is not better. Quantity is not quality. Whoever believes that more is better does not understand human nature. More assets cannot simply bring a higher quality of life. Attitude and atmosphere affect our affluence. The Message paraphrases it: “Better a bread crust shared in love, than a slab of prime rib served in hatred.”
As an aside, homemade food prepared in a loving way, usually slowly, carefully, and in keeping with the consumer’s tastes, is simply magnificent !
Good financial planning leads people to the best! We start traveling the road to the best, when we realize that more is not better!
- Memorize the text in your favourite translation and think about it often.
- Do you need to reconcile with someone?
- Are you spending too much time or money on food preparations for an upcoming party?
- Are there other ways to improve interpersonal relationships among the guests without spending money on fancy foods? Consider music, skits, and games.
Which of these steps, if any, does Jesus want you to take first? Ask Him.
It’s easy to overspend on food: Sometimes, fancy foods are dangerous distractions or even a source of foolish pride.
Having less with friends is better than more with troublesome folks. Do we spend too much time dining in luxury, or too little time gobbling fast food, when we should be spending time with friends and family? When togetherness suffers, this proverb suggests we rethink the luxury and convenience.
The social, interpersonal environment is more important than the meal. The Living Bible puts it this way: “It is better to eat soup with someone you love than steak with someone you hate.”
Even Great Food Has its Limits
This text, like the preceding Proverbs 15:16, recommends limits to growth. “Enough” becomes “too much,” when the society turns vain, competitive, or mechanical. We can’t specify percentage of our income to spend on food or fine dining—fifteen, twenty, or thirty percent of our income on food? Every family is different in size, the kids’ age, and dietary needs. The text does not say how much, but it alerts us to the real issue with dinner. It warns us to change our focus from the food to the company we’re with. These days, that might also mean stressing home-meals instead of fast foods.
Ambiance: The Secret Spice
The proverb is not a commentary on the benefits of vegetarianism. Admittedly, for our budget, vegetables are cheaper than meat, but this text deals with the community, not the cost. In ancient times, oxen were beasts of burden, and their meat, usually tough. But the meat of a fattened ox would be tastier and juicer. Yet it costs something to fatten an ox, and the enhanced taste of well-marbled beef may be lost in unpleasant company.
Restaurants go to great lengths to create a pleasant eating atmosphere. The atmosphere during a meal is often more important than the food itself. Our attitudes affect our ability to enjoy the food (and our digestion). A meal eaten in a relaxed, comfortable manner “schmecks!” A pleasant atmosphere during a meal is like a cook’s secret spice. Love makes food better! But how can we create an atmosphere of love? Isn’t this is beyond the scope of financial advice… or is it?
Fancy Foods Don’t Fix Foes
The enjoyment of a meal depends on how the meal is served and with whom we eat. So 17th century preacher Matthew Henry’s Commentary includes a beautifully rhyming Latin verse, roughly translated: “The most sumptuous entertainment, presented with a sullen brow, would offend me; while the plainest repast, presented kindly, would delight me.”
Most of us have at one time or another, experienced “important” banquets that were strained and distracted because of unresolved tensions among the guests or with the host. In contrast, an atmosphere of love and acceptance, enhances every dish. So every meal should be a “family meal.”
We all know someone who is so disdainful or particular that sharing a meal with them becomes intolerable. Dining is meant to be a sign of honour and solidarity—but not always. If a meal becomes an exercise in polite toleration, rather than a feast of love, the outlay cannot compensate for the discomfort of the guests, however great the expense. Sometimes, the added expense of the effort even magnifies the pride and bitterness. The extra spent on delicacies turns them bitter in the host’s mouth, and then in everyone’s mouth. There is real financial waste in uncomfortable dinners.
Better Versus More
The main message here is that “more” is not always a good thing. More is not better. Quantity is not quality. Whoever believes that more is better does not understand human nature. More assets cannot simply bring a higher quality of life. Attitude and atmosphere affect our affluence. The Message paraphrases it: “Better a bread crust shared in love, than a slab of prime rib served in hatred.”
As an aside, homemade food prepared in a loving way, usually slowly, carefully, and in keeping with the consumer’s tastes, is simply magnificent !
Good financial planning leads people to the best! We start traveling the road to the best, when we realize that more is not better!